My Love Letter to the Queer and Questioning

Dear Reader,

We may have never met, and I may never be blessed with the opportunity to meet you. But even though I may not know your name or recognize your face, I still want you to know that I love you. I want you to know that I appreciate you for who you are, as you are. It doesn’t matter to me if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, heterosexual, or anything else in between. It doesn’t matter to me if you are cisgendered, bigendered, transgendered, queergendered, nongendered, or any other gender identity. It doesn’t matter to me if you are “settled” in your sexual and gender identity or if you are still questioning and searching or if you haven’t yet found the words to describe what you’re feeling. All that matters to me is that you are YOU.

I don’t love you based on what kind of clothes you wear, who you date, who you have sex with (or who you don’t), what your genitals are, what you call yourself, what gender pronoun you prefer, or what your haircut looks like. No—I love you for your kindness. I love you for your brilliance. I love you for your compassion and your drive and dedication. I love you for your confidence. I love you for your insecurities, for your fears and anxieties. I love you for your failures as much as for your successes. I love you for your imperfections. I love you for your beauty that defies stereotypes and standards. I love you for loving those around you. I love you for the days you know who you are, and for the days you don’t. I love you for your beautiful soul, for your vibrant spirit, for your individuality. I love you because you exist and because YOU deserve to be loved. I love you because you are you.

So when you are feeling lonely or isolated, remember you are loved. When you are feeling unwanted or judged or rejected, remember there is someone out there who loves you as you are, where you are. When you feel lost, remember there is someone who loves you in the midst of your confusion and who will walk with you as you make your way back to being “found.” When you are hurting, remember you are not alone and that there is someone waiting to kiss your boo-boos and help make it better. When you are feeling ashamed, remember there is someone who loves you unconditionally and unabashedly. When you feel like you don’t belong, remember you always have a place in someone’s heart.

It is okay to ask questions. It is okay to not know what words fit you best. It is okay to embrace the confusion and the questions and uncertainty and let yourself go with the flow. It is okay to feel like a “she” one day and a “ze” or a “he” or “just me” the next. It is okay to like “girls.” It is okay to like “boys.” It is okay to like no one at all or everyone at once. It is okay to paint your nails pink and lime green and call yourself “him/he.” It is okay to wear baggy pants and bow ties and call yourself “her/she.” It is okay to be whoever you want to be and to have people respect you for that. It is okay to LOVE YOURSELF as you are. You are perfect as you are in this moment, whatever that means, whatever that looks like, whatever you call it. Remember, there are people who already love you for you. <3

Love Always,

Me :)

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    (Just felt the need to post this again, and remind everyone I still love them. :) Love love love…)
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